Thoughts

In my life I cannot say that I have been privy to multiple friendships along the way. When you really think about the definition of friendship it’s difficult to think that a person could really think that friendship equates to high numbers. Unless we are solely speaking in terms of face book connections, or MySpace acceptances

“A friend sticks closer than a brother"

“A true friend is someone you can pour the contents of your heart into."

“Friendship is the bond between two hearts, the trust between two souls, and the connection between one entity in multiple beings."

These are just a few of the things that people say about friendship. I myself have come to the place where I believe that we no longer know how, or even want to be friends, as we are to predisposed with our own agendas to establish a true connection with anyone who is not enabling our plan, furthering our future, or adding some sort of connection through association to get us to wherever it is we want to be. In today’s world friends are people who merely contribute to our cause, fulfill or needs, and buy us things. It's a sad day in the world when we arrive to our goals destination and look over and have no real one to share it with as the pile of individual to our left are individuals we have used and stepped over to get here, and the pile to our right are mere people we call when we need a reference, a contribution, or a powerful "in" to the society that’s needed to get us to the next level.

In my personal life up until a year ago I was a person who was on the search for friends, always appeasing, doing, and trying the whole nine. It was until then I realized the folks I hung out with in my past life that I called "friend" never really were my friends in the first place. I mean yes we had great laughs and giggles, we may have even hung together for a period of time, but I have found that they were more important to me than I was to them. "You can't say that Myster!" Oh but I can! Through secret conversations that weren’t so secret, phone calls that were thought to be disconnected or the forwards of e mails that ended up in my lap, the constant belittling remarks, or the way I felt after leaving the presence of a person I called friend. All these were determining factors in what led me to understand that I never really in my life had the friendship I sought after.

A family later, with responsibilities, an outlook on life that does not involve just myself and the blessing of being a provider I now see things differently (that would include myself). If in this life I never attain a friend outside of my union as I desire I have learned that I am my own best friend, I am the greatest keeper of my secrets. I am the mystery that as yet to be solved and the greatest novel that has yet to be read. I think we as individual should be choosier with who and how we share ourselves with others. We should listen quicker then we speak, and if we sit back in a crowded room of humans we can always see how things will play out without even wasting time and effort.

A song writer once wrote “in times like this we need the lord.” Oh how I agree however it would not hurt to have true friends that see you as a valuable gift given to them, homies who are there for you no matter what, and girlfriends that don’t get catty when you show up dressed better than them while wearing the same shoes! Life’s way to short!

In the place that I am now I can say in confidence that I have made great connections, but I only chose to connect with individuals who character show me that they choose gifts (like myself) for the indurations of a life time, and in the end once it’s all sealed in the bond of friendship, the greatest revelation is the contents of my heart poured out over the soil of the garden of their soul that contains the good seeds I have sewn into them and they in me. I challenge you today to value yourself as your own best friend, and to be better friends to the friends you have.

Myster