Loving An Artist

I would consider myself an artist. Anyone who has spent any time with a person who operates out of a continual creative flow will tell you the mind of arty or creative people can be rather complex and difficult to understand. I have seen many creative people retreat to the background of life due to a continual feeling of always being misunderstood. It is easy for them to disappear but reveal themselves through the gifts they have learned to master. Art is the creative expression of one’s heart and the finest most pure interpretive manifestation of the contents of one soul.

As a stylist it is also my responsibility to be a great counselor to my clients that I’ve had for years (some say that’s why they keep coming). As I prepared my lady for her service she began to  release to me personal things going on with her husband( a man I went to school with and who is a great undiscovered writer and musician)she stated that often times she felt as though she was not good enough, or could not compare to the music. She expressed to me how often times she longed to captivate her husband in deep conversation but always proceeded with caution as she stated “her husband’s mind was so diverse and intricate that she feared she may not be able to keep up.” She went on, and through conversation I discovered that she had began to tighten her grasp on her husband. Limiting his space, sitting in rehearsals, planning her life around his as her insecurity began to eat at her and it for a moment cause her to react in a way that seemed right.

This was something all too common, many of my other friends who have spouses or significant others stated like things about their relationships. In the beginning of my marriage my wife shared the same concerns. One statement she made very early was “It is difficult to compete with what’s in you.” I admit I wish at that time I had the right words to say as my other half longed to be number one over my gift. To be honest I must state that a real artist or being or thrives on any type of creativity may always be a challenge due to the fact that our emotions, our inner sight, our thoughts, our mind are almost always with that which we have thrived on derived from the true spirit of creativity. Yes! It’s expressed differently, some through song, some through painting, others through acting, the gift of dance etc. The thing is that art itself is the elevated form of expression that’s conveyed from heart to heart speaking one message many different ways.

In any relationship there must be trust set in order. Your connection with trust is one of the most important things to establish. Just as you spent time learning your significant other you must learn how to read them through the love that you share, and the connection you have. In any relationship the connection must be so strong that your heart beats with theirs, your mind reads theirs, it’s something developed but it’s something that aids you in times when things may become a bit challenging. Lastly as I explained to my client, you can never love anyone with closed hands, I explained to her the moment you began to treat their creativity as an opponent you set yourself up to fight a battle you will lose. As you must remember, that these gifts have been with these people for most (if not all) of their lives. They have learned to download thru them, grieve, process, and or simply live. In everything there must always be balance, and in every situation we must learn how to still feed through our creative needs and still support and meet the needs of our relationships.

Every relationship has its challenges, its ups and its down but always remember that life must have a greater need for you to be together doing more to affect positive change with each other as opposed to separate! I think in any relationship at times it may be difficult, however I feel as though with arty individuals it may be a bit more difficult as if you are a person who has established creativity as your first love(in any form) you feel divided between the two loves of your life. The gift you've always been able to count on. Or the person in your life that you have now promised to be there for forever. It’s hard on both parties however these are some of the individualized issues you face when entering into a monogamous commitment with an artist. I hope this helped someone today!